How do you lead a life that’s worth living?
This is a clinical question asked by many therapists to their clients.
The answer to this question varies greatly, as each person has their unique outlook of how a worthwhile life may appear.
Digging deeper, I’d consider the importance of values. While someone may value clothing, jewelry, and cars, someone else may place value in the ability to create a family and own a home. Traveling the world may hold great value, while for some, socializing and becoming an influencer, or simply having your winter cuddle buddy become your summer bae may be #goals.
Again, a life worth living is based on values, and understanding what you value may take some consideration and #selfawareness .
Honesty is crucial, as values are sometimes ideals and not current realities.
i.e. a young man may value love, trust, and communication in a relationship, yet he may cheat, be distant, and emotionally available. Clearly his values are ideals and not his reality.
Feelings of unworthiness, failure, and powerlessness are hugely impacted by the inability to answer this question. Often a person may know they want a life worth living but depression, and hopelessness can cloud judgement and cause dangerous negative thinking.
Purpose reinforces self-worth, so it is important to understand that you have a purpose.
None of us are here by accident and while you may not know your purpose ahead of you, you may have to trust your experiences, your journey, your pains, your success, and your failures as a potential path to your purpose. Sometimes the past leads you to where you need to be.
You may have lost a job, but the stress of financial instability, may motivate you to find another job which may be where you are challenged, respected, and given the opportunity to grow.
You may have left a loveless relationship, grieved the relationship, went to therapy, and eventually appreciated the experience to learn more about yourself and your expectations for love.
I could go on regarding possibilities of your purpose, but I want to encourage you that it exists, it’s just a matter of seeking and finding exactly what that is.
My hope is that you find your purpose, you see every disappointment, not necessarily as a failure, but as a moment to motivate yourself closer to your values, your purpose, your plans, and living a life that is worth living for you.
Comments